Sherry Kachanis

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#Me too… It’s time to be seen!

Last week, I started to see the #Me too posts all over Facebook.  I was not surprised at how widespread this is… sexual assault, sexual abuse, sexual harassment, molestation, rape, it’s truly rampant! Stop and think about this for a moment, you or someone you know has been sexually abused at some point in their life.  Digest that for a moment, let it really sink in. It’s alarming isn’t it?

For the most of my life, I have been healing from sexual abuse that started at a very young age. This truth about me certainly was something that I would delete if I could. I imagine this to be like the old tv show Bewitched, where the main character, Samantha, who was a “witch” would wiggle her nose making things vanish.  Yet as much as I healed, this trauma was still very much apart me.

I finally realized over a year ago, that I had been running from this all my life.  Did I really think I could get away from it? I was angry that after all this time, there were still parts of me that still had to heal.  I dug in (on my own and with help from others), to unravel old patterns and beliefs. This left me feeling vulnerable and raw in the process.  Yet I was understanding myself more and more, and how old programs or patterns that I unconsciously created as a survival mechanism were no longer necessary, in fact they were holding me back from experiencing life as fully as I wanted to. Unconsciously, unknowingly, these “programs” would continue to run in my life.  Until I had an epiphany, which was simply, that I could choose to change.

Breaking those programs was hard, painful, uncomfortable and freaking scary at times. Yet, also powerful, as I was choosing to grow.  In that growing, I came to understand that all the guilt and shame that I carried for years, was never mine to begin with.  I had done nothing wrong. There was nothing for me to be ashamed of.   While this will always be a part of me, my past does not define me, however it certainly set me on a path to become who I am today.

I never really considered that because of these experiences, there were blessings to be grateful for, such as… I am strong, compassionate, kind, caring… I am also sensitive and passionate. I am forgiving, something that after so many years of being angry, I finally understood what Buddha meant when he said, “Holding on to Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  Letting  go and forgiving set me free from the self-imposed prison in my mind.

Truth is, I love who I am now and how I continue to evolve.  I strive to live, to be in the NOW as much as possible. Fully accepting and loving all of me, the way I am – perfectly imperfect, as we all are.

The #Me too movement from my perspective is about awareness, claiming your voice, being seen, and taking back your power.  I AM, are you?

“My past has not defined me, destroyed me, deterred me, or defeated me; it has only strengthened me.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli

 

 

 

 

 

Join us for a Journey of Healing…

My friend and colleague Leslie Ziemba and I are excited to be facilitating together! Leslie and I are both coaches, who are passionate about helping people to realize their dreams. Having similar training, it feels natural for us to combine our energies, experiences and expertise to create a special day of healing.

On Saturday, November 18th, 2017 from 1PM – 7 PM, in Summerville, SC, we will lead an experiential day of receiving, reflecting and releasing.

* Healing past relationships

* Time Line Therapy demonstration

* Meditation & Shamanic drumming

* Chakra Balancing

* Nutritional affects on mental health and mood

* Welcoming in new love, abundance and good health

* Understand New Moon energy

* Releasing and burning ceremony to end our empowering day

 

Includes delicious homemade seasonal dinner created and infused with Love by myself and Leslie! Snacks, teas and light refreshments will be available throughout the day.

Register NOW and reserve your space for this intimate small group experience. Seats sell out quickly!

Early registration$99, until November 3, 2017
Registration after November 3rd$149.

Contact Sherry at SherryKachanis@gmail.com to register.

 

Meet the Facilitators:

Sherry

Sherry Kachanis

Sherry Kachanis is a Transformational Coach and Shamanic Healer. A certified trained Master Practitioner of NLP, Time Line Therapy, NCLS, and Hypnosis. She is also experienced in several healing modalities including Shamanic healing techniques, Reiki Master/Teacher, Magnified Healing Master/Teacher and more.

Sherry’s passion is guiding people to break through unconscious barriers to fully LIVE the life they desire!  She uses a no nonsense approach to uncover any issues, problems, negative emotions, beliefs and patterns of behavior that no longer serve you positively. She supports you to take charge of your healing and your life.  She also passionately empowers women by leading women’s circles honoring the moon, the seasons and Life.

 

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Leslie Ziemba

Leslie Ziemba is an Empowerment Strategist and Coach. She is also the Author of “Fearless Love” – Growing Through Divorce, Dating and Divine Purpose to Heal, Thrive and Attract the Love You Desire.

She writes and teaches on the topics of love, relationships, divorce, personal growth, healing and divine purpose.

Leslie’s passion is helping men and women get from where they are to where they want to be in any area of life, rapidly and effectively! Her personal story, work and book reflect pure vulnerability, authenticity and the “Big Sister – Real Talk” we often need to help us get out of our own way.

 

Change…

transformationIt is my understanding  and knowing that change is inevitable and constant evolution.  I can choose to  embrace change or resist it. Ever hear the saying, what I resist is what persists? It is so true!  Think about it for a moment… go back in your mind to a time you were in the midst of change, maybe it was exciting, or scary, or even something in between.  You may find that when you were resistant, things didn’t go as smoothly as you’d liked.  Yet the moment you surrendered and let go, things magically fell into place and everything just flowed.

While I know this and understand this, I realize that while in the midst of change, its important to remind myself to let go, to trust in the process and know, really know that no matter what, everything is going to be fine.  Easy to say, yet it can be hard to do, of course, if I so choose.

See I also realize that I have CHOICE.  We all make choices from the moment we are awake until the time we go to sleep.  How so?  Well we choose what we eat, what we wear, where we go, etc.  In fact, we are always making choices.  Are we making the choices that are best for us? Are we in alignment with our choices?

A few months ago, I was in a position to make a choice, in a moment, in this case, to stay or go.  As I mentally checked in with myself, I asked myself, what is best for me?  What feels right to me?  Once I reached a decision on what I would do, I felt peaceful inside, which was my sign I was in alignment with the choice I was about to make. In this case, it felt good and was the right thing to do for myself. This feeling lasted for several hours, then anxiety (which is fear in disguise) made its presence known.

Fortunately, I am blessed to have very loving, encouraging and supportive people in my life.  When the fear surfaced, I immediately reached out to a dear friend who happens to also be an amazing coach.  She quickly helped me to see the reality of the situation and helped me to strategize on what I needed to do next.  She listened and gave sage advice on allowing myself to just be.  Just talking with her  calmed me allowing me to see what was, not what I perceived it to be.

That night as I reflected and checked in with myself, I realized, that I had manifested this solution.  For several years, I have desired to be a full-time entrepreneur again, yet through obligations and unconscious self sabotage, I was unable to make the leap, until, that moment three months ago.  The Universe responded to my requests and removed all perceived obstacles from my path, clearing the way for me to serve my soul purpose of helping others heal.

We are all spiritual beings having a human experience and I’ve experienced the gamut of emotions that come with change. Yet I continue to choose to embrace each emotion as it comes, sometimes I resist, and when I catch myself, I ask myself what is it that you need to learn that once you learn it you can let go?  Once I know what the learning is, I am able to let go and get back into the flow.  Which allows me to focus on what I want, rather than what I don’t want.

Do you know what you want? Upon reading this question, where does your mind go? Does it go to what you want?  Or does it go to what you don’t want? Which is it?

Next time, we we go a step further with this, bringing in the Law of Attraction.

 

**When you are looking for a coach who is an excellent model of excellence, I highly recommend Terry Wildemann  at www.awakenthepossibilities.com and www.attractionpreneur.com. Her wisdom and insights have been incredibly helpful to me and she has the skills and experience that makes the difference!

 

 

 

 

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